This weekend was wonderful. Saturday night I went to a ladies night and met some new ladies. We watched a documentary "Diary of a Mad Black Man". We had such a good discussion about it that we didn't even make it through the full documentary. However I've seen it before. If your a female, its a great documentary to watch. But I do believe they did dramatize the woman's acting a little too much. The topic that stood out the most was interacial dating. There are a lot of black women that hate to see a man with a white woman. Personally I think thats an issue that comes from within a woman. Something is either going on or happened for her to hate to see a black man with a white woman together. The only time it bothers me is if the guy thats dating a white woman said he's dating her because black women are too difficult or picky etc. That's the only time I'm bothered by it. I hate men that sterotype all black women because of one that spoiled the bunch. Another topic that came up, was the type of women today men look for. And out of everyone there, I happen to be the only chuncky one lol. So no one really understood when I said, part of the reason why I've think I've been single for so long is because men go after the video vixens. The mixed chicks with long hair and legs. And I happen to be short with short hair. When I was first single for the first 2 years I know for sure men didn't talk to me because they could sense my ensecurity, low self esteem and low confidence. But that all changed as the years went on. I learned a lot about myself and learned how to love myself. So now that I've accomplished that, I don't understand now, why I'm still single. But if I look at it on the christian side, I know I need to get my life right with christ, which is what I'm working on now. I know that god has my best interest at heart and will do things in his time, but GOODNESS how much longer LORD lol? They say be careful what you pray for. Well I prayed for patience...If I knew what I know now, trust me that's not something I'd ask for lol. To close this post just want to encourage my women readers. Remember you must love yourself first before anyone else can love you.
I watched that documentary a couple of months ago and found it very interesting. I agree with you, that the lead female role was a little over dramatic but in general it brought up some very good points. I like how one of the scenes on bi-racial dating covered that women of every culture and ethnic group deal with the same issues. The stereo-typical black woman always has a bad attitude and can't tell when she has a good man, but I think it's so far from the truth. Maybe a percentage is like that, but definitely not all.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right, about loving yourself. How can anyone love or even respect someone who doesn't love themself?