For the past 7 years of me being single, I've played the 3rd wheel, 6th wheel, 9th wheel and every odd number you can think of when it comes to hanging with couples. When you've been single for as long as I have you sort of avoid hanging with couples as much as possible. People who are NOT single, DON'T understand this.
Have you ever been the 3rd or 6th wheel? Have you hung out with a couple and watched them kiss, hold hands, hug, or stare into each others eyes? If you have, then you know where I'm coming from. You also know that this isn't always a comfortable situation to be apart of. You are aware that you can handle being around couples a few times a year but not all the time. You may also understand the frustration you get when friends want you to hang with them and their partner all the time. Now don't get me wrong. I'm glad that my friends are sweet enough to ask me if I'd like to attend an event with them and their partner, and I'm not writing this post asking them to stop asking me. What does bother me is the smart remarks I get if I decline the offer. So let me just put this out there for you folks in relationships that forgot about what it's like to be single. Here were go SINGLE 101:
1.) MONTH: Pay attention to the time of month you ask your friend to hang with couples or you and your man or woman. February is NOT the month to ask to hang out together if your friend is single. Even though Valentines day is only celebrated 1 day, the single people still have to deal with going to the stores and seeing them ambushed with Red and Pink items, candy, bears etc. In February I'm already feeling a little sad that I'm lonely once again this year and seeing all the valentine day objects EVERYWHERE YOU FREAKEN go can be hard to handle. So I don't want to hang with you and your man in this month AT ALL....PERIOD. Other holidays such as Thanksgiving, Christmas etc....all these holidays are a little tough to be around couples when your single.
2.) LOCATION: Going to the movies, out to dinner, and vacation resorts are not comfortable locations for single people to hang with a couples. At least it isn't for me LOL! Watching a couple hold hands next to me in the movies, watching my friend feed her man at dinner, or watching a couple fall in love all over again on the beach on vacation is not fun for me.
3.)JUST BECAUSE: There are times when you just don't want to be around couples just because you DON'T! Your just not in the mood for it. And friends should understand and not get attitudes and may comments like "you never want to do anything anymore." HEELLLLOOOOO.... I don't want to do anything with you and your man. Get the picture LOL?
I don't think this issue will change with me. I do know that I've gotten better over the years and can tolerate couples a lot better than I use to. But I still have my moments when I'm not in the mood. However this Friday my best friend has invited me to go out with her and her man and few more couples. She caught me on a good day, so I'm cool with it and looking forward to it. I'll tell you all about it soon!
Sorry it took me so long to comment. I really had to think about this one because I have never been the 3rd wheel. But looking at this topic from your eyes man I really slaped you in that face with my realtionship. For example all the times I complain to you about petty relationship problems when I should have thanked God for allowing me to allways have a man. Like when I was kissing all over my husband while you were in the room. I'm sorry for that because I now see and fell what you felt sitting there looking at use being carless of your fellings I couldn't imagine what I would do and how I would fell if that was me. Forgive me tete because I have now expenced what it fells like to be a 3rd wheel with the help of viewing this through your eys. I love you tete I really do.
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