Is Mr. Creepo a Sexual Harrassment Case?

Ok since I'm not prepared to deal with this at work yet, I figured I'd blog about it first and get some feed back IF anyone reads this post.

So theres this old guy at my job. Lets call him  Mr. Creepo, simply because he creeps me the hell out. 

Mr Creepo sits in an office next to me at work and Mr. Creepo is a very friendly and talk-a-tive old man.

It all started back in April on my birthday when my boss bought me a cake to work and I was cutting everyone a piece at my desk. He came over to get a piece and leaned in to hug me and kissed me unexpectedly on my cheek and said "Happy birthday Terrica".  It caught me completely off guard and literally made me sick to my stomach. Not to mention he left a lil bit of spit on my cheek.....WHAT THE HELL? I was so grossed out. But I smiled and swallowed the lump in my throat and said thank you and let it go. I just figured he's just being nice. After that Mr. Creepo seemed to be more comfortable with me. He started complimenting me everyday when I cam in. He would come up to my desk and say good morning and say my hair looked nice and that I had a sexy hair cut. This went on daily for the next couple of months and since the past two weeks he started something that I can't stand. One morning he came to my desk and complimented my hair once again. OK PEOPLE my hair pretty much looks the same every day. Its not how it is in the picture above, its a shorter cut but it looks the same every day. So I don't think I need to be complimented on it every single damn day. So that morning after complimenting my hair again Mr. Creepo said I make his heart throb and his sticks his hand in his shirt between the buttons and pretends to make the gesture that his heart is pounding through his shirt and opens mouth and pants for breaths. The first time he did it I laughed. But when he stopped at my desk every morning and did it, it really started grossing me out. So now I roll my eyes at him when he does it. You would think that my face expression would be enough for him to get the point that he's getting on my nerves but he hasn't caught on to that.

So now, every morning when I come into work I'm annoyed knowing that Mr. Creepo will stop by my desk to compliment me and do his disgusting heart throb gesture. Now I've never felt like I've been sexually harassed at a job before but I've been involved in a complaint involving other co-workers that listed me as a potential victim. This was at an older job. Anyway.....I know how tedious the process is and all the stress and strain it puts on you to go through something like this at work. This is not something I'm prepared to handle right now.When I think about it, I would say that Mr. Creepo is really a friendly old man that just doesn't know how to respect people's personal space and doesn't understand that some of the comments and gestures he makes is unprofessional. Since he's a contractor and most of them have are being let go lately, I was thinking I won't have to deal with him much longer and just let it be. But if he is here for the next 6-12 months then what do I do? As blunt as I am, I'm not nice enough to politely tell him he's making me feel uncomfortable. I wouldn't abruptly hurt his feelings and go the hell off if I end up having to say something. The fact that I HAVE to SAY something is what will piss me off and send me over the edge and I lose all professionalism and cuss this man the hell out. Hmm.....what to do...what to do?? As I type this post he passes my cube and smiles at my and my skin crawls lol. YUCK!!  Then I ask my self, am I just tripping and reading it all too deep? Is this sexual harassment? What are your thoughts?

Character Flaws & All

Its not easy to own up to your flaws. I have several that I'm OK with sharing today. I developed these character/ personality flaws while being single, and I've come to accept the fact that my life is the way it is because I have not chosen to make a change in my life in the way that I see and deal with things.

I recently watched a christian video that talked about how to get a man gods way. The video called out some points that I know all too well. After my 3rd year of being single I began feeling a little impatient on waiting for Mr Right. by the 5th year of being single I was completely upset that I hadn't found a man that I started doing things like:

1. Being Jealous when I see any type of couple together. I would say to myself " Now why does she have a man and I don't"
2. Putting down all men. Since so many broke my heart I pretty much just considered all men to be the same.
3. Saying things like "I can't live my life without a man."
4. Not living. I haven't bought a house because I've been waiting to buy one with my husband.

These are just a few that I'm not ashamed to admit. These are also the only character flaws I know I can work hard to change.

Over the last two years I've already begun to change some of these. The first and easiest to change was number 2. I know that all men aren't dogs....only the ones that broke my heart lol. Its not fair to put down one man for another mans faults. The second one I changed is number 1. It took a few years to get over this, and to be able to watch movies without crying every 30 min. To talk about it now sounds so pathetic lol, but its the truth. I couldn't stand the sight of another couple, and I couldn't stand anyone talking about their partner. Now I'm the nosey one asking all of the questions lol.

As for 3 and 4 these are two flaws that are still in progress of change. I will say that 3 is almost complete. To get over the fact of saying I can't live without a man, means I have to completely except my situation and be thankful and happy for the things I do have. And to be happy no matter what. It's only difficult because I've never been one of those chicks that enjoys being alone. I want what the average woman wants. A Husband, a big family and happiness till the end of my days. As for 4 there are some restrictions that are currently holding me back on buying my own house other than waiting for my husband. One is my credit. Its pretty bad right now and I'm working on getting it better. Even if I was in a relationship I wouldn't want to go into my marriage with my debt. That's not fair to him. And I had to get out of the mind set that owning a home is only for FAMILIES. A single woman can own a 5 bedroom house if she chooses to. These are just a few of my flaws and I accept them and working to change them to better my future and to see my dreams come true.

Thanks for reading.

Wedding Coma

The last few weeks have been crazy. I'm so glad Jessica's wedding is over but not to happy about getting ready for another next year for my friend Krystal. I already feel like opting out lol. I spent $325.00 for a dress that I'm only going to wear once. What kind of crap is that. That's now my 3rd bridesmaid dress I've collected. This coming Saturday is Krystal's bridal meetup. I'm already feeling exhausted. I'm soooo freaken sleepy. Since Vegas I feel like I haven't really slept. Something was always planned every weekend so I always got up early and went to bed very late. Jessica's wedding was this past Sunday, and from the moment I walked down the isle....All I could think about was going home and going to bed lol. I'm still driving to work every morning sleepy. I pray I get some rest soon. I know I'll probably be in a coma for a day or two.