Most of my adult life, I've always been considered the Home Girl to all my guy friends and to every new guy I meet. For some reason most of the men I meet just can't see past me being their home girl, aka (friend). Guys meet me and say..."You hella cool to kick it with, or I've never been around a girl as cool as you." " Your like one of the home boys. Now for those of you who don't know me I'm not a tomboy. I do dress like a girl, I wear makeup and I act like your average chick. There are a few things that guys seem to love about me. They love that I'm a movie buff. I have over 1000 DVD's, and my favorite sport is boxing. That is about the only thing that is some what tomboyish of me. I'm also told by guys that I have a hella cool personality to be around, I'm funny and always make them laugh, and that they have no problem opening up and talking to me. Most guys tell me that girls can be annoying to be around after a few hours; however they don't feel that way when they are around me. I would think that if a guy loved all of this about me, shouldn't he want to date me? If they enjoy my company and feel comfortable with me as they would with one of their boys; wouldn't that be the ideal partner to have in a relationship? All that makes common sense to me, but when it comes to what a guy thinks....NO NO NO (I'm just their home girl) aka (their friend). This situation is sort of bitter sweet. Bitter in a way that a guy can't see past the home girl status to like me as a potential partner, but sweet in a way they can relate to me as one of their home boys and loves and enjoys my company. This is truly a blessing and a curse. So I ask you readers. What is a girl to do in a situation like this? I can't tell you how many guys I've met that I found interesting enough for me to like them or want to date them, but instead I become the homey and they are asking me to hook them up with my girl friends. It always hurts inside, because I'm never given that chance that's given to other girls. I'm never able to show them the side of me that they could possibly come to love.
I'm Greatful for the guy friends that I have, and I'm glad that I can be that girl they can talk to about anything. But when will it be my turn? When will I be the girl on the other side of the fence? When will that one guy come along and love everything about me and chooses me to be the love of his life? When will he see that I'm Easy 2 Love? I guess only time will tell. Till next time my fellow readers!
It is pretty awesome to be able to develop that type of relationship with the opposite sex, but I was wondering the same thing. Why haven't they shown interest to take the relationship to another level? So I googled it, and came up with an answer from Yahoo! Answers: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090115134316AAjPBXU.
ReplyDeleteMost guys said the reason most likely stems from letting your male friends know too much about you, too soon. Men like women to be somewhat "mysterious", and be a little flirtatious. I don't know if this is the problem in your case, but I found it interesting.