I've been procrastinating about writing this post, but I can't hold it back anymore. About a month in a half ago I went to dinner with one of my "FORMER Friends...I think." After dinner we all went back to her place to kick it. We just hung out, watched tv and talked. About 1am I went home. She called me while I was driving home but I didn't hear my cell phone ring because my music was too loud. The next day I called her back but she didn't pick up. Later that night I text her but she didn't respond. The next day I texted again and called throughout the day and left messages but she never texted back, picked up the phone or called me back. This isn't like her at all. We may miss each others calls but we always call back later in the day. Days and weeks have gone by and still no response from her. It's now obvious to me that she is angry about something. I HAVE NO FREAKEN IDEA WHAT IT IS!!!! And its driving me insane, and I'm sure she knows it is. This is her amo! I've even emailed her and said " Hey what's going on, I haven't heard from you and you have me a little worried." I even left her my blog address. Still NO response back. The only reason I figured she is mad at me about something is because I know her personality and she's sort of done this before to another friend of mine. However that friends knew why they weren't talking. If she is mad enough she'll just cut you off and ignore you until she's ready to talk to you. What is bothering me is I thought we were really close friends and I thought she would at least give me the respect to approach me about it like an adult instead of leaving me in the dark about it. I can't tell you how annoying it is to be ignored by someone and I have no idea for the ignorance. I've gotten to the point where I had to take her picture down from my wall in my living room because every time I looked at her and I got mad. I'm soooo f&^%$ mad at her right now. If she was to call me now and say she was mad at me about something I'd truly flip out. Her actions right now are grounds for dismissal with our friendship. I don't think anything tragic has happened because I emailed a friend she works with on facebook and told her to tell (Blank) to call me. She responded back and said ok. The next day I emailed her again on FB and she hasn't responded back. Which leads me to believe that (Blank) has told her to ignore me and not respond back.
I know that people come into your life for a reason/season or a lifetime. I thought she was a lifetime friend, but it turns out it may have only been for a season. So what am I suppose to have learned from this? What was the reason for her coming into my life only to end our friendship in this odd way? When people say what happened between you and (Blank) my answer is, "I don't know, she just stop calling me." I've wanted to just go up to her job, but then I thought to myself, I'm not about to be tracking down someone who obviously isn't trying to be my friend anymore. I don't even want to give her that satisfaction. I'd probably snap on her at her job and cause a big A$$ scene and get her fired and I wouldn't want to do anything like that to her. So I've come to the conclusion that we are DONE, I GUESS! I'm not texting anymore and I'm not going fishing for the reason this happened. But DAMN, I never thought she'd ever do something like this. I can't tell you the countless hours I spent trying to think what I could have possibly done to make her this mad. And even if I did do something to make her mad, I deserve a lot more than this freaken silent treatment she's pulling.
And this is for you (Blank). If your reading this I just want to finally say that your actions are totally FUCKED UP! I thought you and I were hella cool and understood each other the way others couldn't understand us. You were just telling your co-workers that I was one of your close friends. Well is this the way you treat your CLOSE friends? I would have appreciated for you to be a woman and come to me RIGHT away and work out any problem you had with me. YOU KNOW ME!! I don't have ENEMIES! I could understand this silent treatment if I knew what you were mad about. So in closing, it was nice knowing you and I wish you all the best. I pray you learn from this and don't do this to another one of your CLOSE FRIENDS!
Wow! That is pretty messed up; regardless of what you "may" have done. True friends really don't just cut you out of their lives so easily or harshly. No matter what, she doesn't even have a right to be upset with you after this sort of treatment. I'm on the same page with you, I wouldn't even bother with her any longer; even if she tried to come back after reading this post. If she did that, it would most likely be out of guilt rather than just out of being a true and honest friend. Personally, I know you're a very good friend, and with that, you don't deserve to be treated any other way than with respect. Friends aren't meant to punish each other. In a way be thankful for it, because you don't want to have someone in your life who's so selfish in the long haul. Love you; just be thankful for the good memories you two shared, then forgive and let go.
ReplyDeleteOMG she really got some balls to treate you like that after all you have been through together she may be caught up on something that you said cause you really are a blant person but if she is your girl like you said she was then she should know dont ask or tell you something that she really don't want the answer to because you will keep it real and tell her. So it really does not matter why she is mad because at this point her madness is erailavent now because grown waman and friends know the golden rule if you get mad at a friend you take a day to pull your self togther and then you go talk to your girl but the way she went about this is just childish and disrespectful because a true friend should be able to talk to a close friend about anything. You are one of the most outstanding weman I know and you deserve so much more love and respect because you give it so freely so pray about this friend and I do mean pray about this friend and then let her go because the only person I think should be able to make you this mad and take up this much time trying to find out whats wrong is your family and husband and i know family bet not be actting like this case Ill come down from TX and slap them for you. And your hubby is not around right now. So in closing this friend just lost one of the most smartet, coolest honest, loving, accountable, down to earth, funest, realest, trust worthy, friend you ever wanted to meet. I love you TETE and you deserve better.
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