Yes I'm Celibate

Cel·i·ba·cy (sl-b-s)

n.

1. Abstinence from sexual intercourse, especially by reason of religious vows.

2. The condition of being unmarried.

In case you didn't know I'm currently 31 and I've been celibate for about 7 years now. Now I don't go around shouting this out to the world but recently a very good conversation lead me to blogging about this topic. I'm a christian. Now I'm not perfect and there are still a lot of things God is working on with me like profanity which by the way is so much better considering how I was brought up and all the profanity that was around me. But anyway.....All Christians aren't perfect. We battle with day to day issues just like everyone else. We all go through trials and tribulations just like everyone else. But there does come a time in every Christians life where he/she hits a turning point and realize they need to change a lot of things in their life and start leading the life that God has called them to lead. And seven years ago I came across the same turning point. After a horrible heart break in a relationship I decided that I would never have sex again until it was with my husband. I even bought a brand new mattress to get rid of any soul ties I may have had in that bed lol. The only person that has been on my mattress is me. I don't even let men sit on my bed or enter my room anymore. But before I could make such a big decision like that, I had to do my research to back up my decision. I knew this would turn a lot of heads with friends and family members who weren't saved. And I knew they would beat me over the head and tell me I was crazy. So as I did my research I learned that sex was a gift from God to MARRIED COUPLES ONLY lol! I repeat....MARRIED COUPLES ONLY! You may ask why if you don't know, and the reason is, because God knew that marriage would be hard between a man and a woman, so he gave them a gift that would always bring them back to where they needed to be. But you see, this gift only works if you use it the correct way. Its a sin to have sex before marriage or just sleep around. Why do you think most marriages don't last, or some are so messed up, or a lot of these relationships such as girlfriend and boyfriends don't work out. In case you didn't know. Girlfriend and Boyfriend are not words in the bible. Only Husband and Wife. The bible says the only person you are to have sex with is your husband/wife. So when I realized that I was already messing up my future by having pre-marital sex I decided to stop and so I did. It wasn't easy in the beginning but now its a piece of cake. I don't need it and don't miss it at all. I'm excited about that moment I'm going to share with my husband when he knows that I've made such a strong decision. If I knew what I know now and I could take it all back, believe me I would have stayed a virgin. I lost my virginity at 17 which I think is a great age considering some kids are having sex at ages like 11 and up.

So now my only issue is dealing with the world and all the comments and remarks my non-religious friends & family have to say about it. And let me tell you its not easy. I've been asked if I was a lesbian, or if I'd been sexually abused lol. All kinds of craziness. Its hard defending yourself to people who don't understand the rules behind being a christian. But I know I've made the right decision and I know God will reward me for that. I don't know whats taking him so long to send me my hubby lol but I know I still got some growing to do...so I'll use this time to do just that.
By the way, God has made it very easy to get rid of men that come into my life that's not on the same level with me. I don't tell guys I'm celibate right away when I meet them. Its not until I develop a more personal relationship with them as to when I feel its time to tell them a bit more about me. But let me tell ya.....the minute I say I'm celibate, their eyes get big and they head for the door. And I just smile and say NEXT!!!! LOL!
So here is a message to the folks who just don't seem to understand Celibacy: It's a choice one chooses to make and let me tell you, unless your celibate and still a virgin, becoming celibate after years of experiencing sex is not easy. It takes a lot of strong will, prayer, dedication and devotion. We are not weirdo's because we choose to not sleep around. There is nothing mentally wrong with us. Not everyone is celibate for religious reasons, but for those who are: We've tapped into something that you may never understand. So don't beat up folks because of the decision they've made...instead respect them and congratulate them..because in the end the blessing that they will receive from God will be so worth the wait.

Thanks for reading: I hope I haven't offended anyone. I understand that are lots of religions out there and I respect them all. If this message has offended someone...I apologize sincerely.
"Tee"