Always A Friend, Never A Girlfriend

As I mentioned back in January, I've been working on a book titled: "Always A Friend, Never A Girlfriend"

This book is about my life experience with being single and how I started out in High School as the home-girl to most of the popular guys in school. My cousin Nek was actually the person to bring it to my attention that she noticed how close I was with all the guys back in High School. I remember some girls even using me to get to guys. I don't think I've ever given much thought to the kind of position I was in. I think during that time of my life, I just enjoyed that I could hang with the guys and they talked around me freely as if I was one of them. The only time it became a problem was if I became attracted to one of them. That's when I learned that in most cases these guys could only see me as a friend and never a girlfriend. The older I got the more annoying this became. I'm thankful that I have a personality that most guys love about me, but it sucks when they can't see past that. The typical line I hear after spending some time with a new guys is " Terrica your hella cool, I've never kicked it with a female like you and had such a cool time and wasn't annoyed by you, Your like the lil sister or home-girl I never had"

Don't get me wrong, I'm glad these guys feel this way around me, but after a while of ALWAYS hearing this, it becomes really annoying. I think I'm developing a phobia. When I meet a new guy that I may be attracted to, I'm terrified thinking that he's only going to see me as a friend. I've never been a tomboy so I'm not sure what it is about me that guys find so home-girly lol. Lets see, my favorite sport is boxing, I love movies and have a DVD collection over a thousand. I'm a social butterfly and love being goofy and silly at times. I like to make people laugh and always want people to feel comfortable around me. To me these sound like normal characteristics. One of my guy best friends Justin told me that when a guy meets me and sees how cool I am to be around they don't want to destroy our friendship by trying to date me. But I say to the men...."Wouldn't you want the best of both worlds?" You could have your cake and eat it too. So through-out my life there have been a few guys I met, and in the beginning I was immediately attracted to them, however the put me in the friend zone an kept me there. So I decided to write a book to tell the tale of Terrica Shervon Smith and her amazing life as the HOMEGIRL. It's pretty funny and even sad at times. I just hope it doesn't take me forever to finish it. Writing a book isn't easy. Its a lot of work and requires a lot of time. I've never done this before but I have a good feeling that this book could turn out to be pretty good and maybe become a movie some day. So keep me in your prayers my friendly readers. See ya back her next week.